30 Rock Redux


“No one forgets the truth, they just get better at lying.” – Revolutionary Road

There are nuggets of truth everywhere you look.  In innocent conversations with children, in watching elderly couples hold hands during their morning walk, in selfies (self-portraits), and even in the Starbucks drive-thru.keep

Venti, non-fat, no foam, no water, 6 pumps, extra hot, chai tea latte, please.


There are even nuggets of truth in the media we watch. I know, by and large mediated messages have gone through the spin cycle, and we are presented with versions of truth and reality that are supposed to represent truth and reality.

Apparently they’re not the same thing.

It can be confusing if you’re not paying attention.

The same can be said about getting old and growing old.

Apparently they’re not the same thing either.

I don’t know what it is about milestone birthdays or birthdays with digits that end in zero that bring about introspection. Could it be that it’s a period in your life where a reflective pause is instinctive; it feels like a natural extension of what we should do; or is it a learned behavior because our culture is so age-sensitive?

Regardless, as I have approached my 40th birthday today, I realize that I ROCKED my 30s. I can say proudly that I:

  • Renewed my relationship with God;
  • Married a kind man;
  • Gave birth to incredible children;
  • Rekindled my love for writing; I am a writer;
  • Learned to take professional risks without having to endure personal sacrifices;
  • Started volunteering, and mentoring more, and
  • Learned to say EXACTLY what’s on my mind without fear of judgment or repercussion.

I’m not perfect. I also:

  • Failed miserably at diets, over and over and over…
  • Started running, gave up and am trying again
  • Would not adapt to new fashion trends (I refuse to wear ‘stripper shoes’ – platform heels, sorry, not going to do it);
  • Failed at friendships, some were toxic, but I lost a good one;
  • Received my first rejection letter from a publisher (actually, I’m quite proud of that);
  • And at times I allowed fear to stop me from moving forward.

See? Not perfect.

Today, I wholeheartedly:

  • Embrace my age – 40 is not the new 30. 40 is 40, and I’m alright with that.
  • Cherish where I am in life – I started with HUMBLE beginnings. HUMBLE.
  • Choose to forgive myself and those who have wronged me every day (Luke 7:47).
  • Accept compliments and pats on the back because I deserve them.
  • Look fear square in the face, and while I may still be afraid at times, I won’t let it stop me.
  • Prefer a simple cup of tea.

Tell me, on your last milestone birthday (or even as part of your New Year’s Resolution) what truths have you learned? Are you living them?

26 thoughts on “30 Rock Redux

  1. Turned 50 last year and decided that it’s my turn. I give generously to loved ones, but now I don’t feel guilty about spending time with (and for) myself. I’ve become my own most important person, and it makes all my other relationships that much stronger.

  2. Happy birthday. We are kindred spirits. I wish you lived in my neighborhood. I know we’d be friends. Keep writing and inspiring. Oh, and about that rejection letter, I once had the opportunity to ask JK Rowling if “Harry Potter” was rejected. She assured me that any author “worth their salt has many rejection letters under their belt.” Yay for us. 🙂

    • You’re right, we’d be great friends, Sue. I’m inspired by your artistry and view of the world and am so glad we’ve connected online. That’s the blessing of this blog, I’ve met some incredible women who I probably wouldn’t have otherwise.

      JK Rowling is to be admired, not just as a writer but because she’s woven the power of mother’s love through 7 incredible works of fiction. I admire her immensely.

  3. What a lovely post. Happy birthday!! As I approach 50, I keep telling myself that’s just a number. I feel so much younger inside :). Here’s to your magnificent 40s!

  4. mamarabia

    Happy birthday! I’m halfway through my 30s and they are not as scary as some people have made them out to be. I don’t mind growing older; it’s the alternative that sucks!!

    • Well said. Cherish your 30s, it’s a great time for enlightenment. I wasted some of it worrying about getting older, but realized half way through that each moment is meant to be cherished.

      Thanks so much for stoping by. Come again.

  5. emmymom2

    Happy Birthday!! You’re right what it is it about the years that end in zero that seem to bring milestones? What is the book you are writing? Is it out there yet? I too am writing a book, very slowly it feels like but yes half dread the day I am done with it as then it will hopefully be out there for all to see. Oh and it is nice to meet you, we are part of the same SITS tribe 🙂

    • Thanks so much for the birthday wish (very sweet of you). I chuckled a little when I read your book question. I’m writing a wonderful story about being broken and putting the pieces back together again recognizing that the cracks (flaws) are just fine (whew!). I’m enjoying the process of writing it, although I look forward to being done so that I can share.

      Tell me about your book! What inspired you to write it?

      And thanks so much for stopping by, I just love SITS. I’m so glad I found them. I hope you stop by again.

  6. Six Figures Under

    Congrats on 40 years! It sounds like you’ve accomplished a lot:)

    I’m in your SITS tribe. It’s nice to meet you!

  7. Happy belated Birthday. I also like to reflect on my birthday. List my accomplishment and lose, and establish what I will do next. We are also in the same SITS Tribe and I look forward to getting to know you and your blog.

  8. Happy Belated Birthday! I’m so glad you rekindled your love for writing at age 40! This is a great post. I loved it. A little while after turning 50, I too rekindled my love for writing – seemed like a now or never time to me to do it. So I started a blog and have been writing and having fun ever since. Wish I’d done it 10 years sooner – as you have! 🙂

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