“No one forgets the truth, they just get better at lying.” – Revolutionary Road
There are nuggets of truth everywhere you look. In innocent conversations with children, in watching elderly couples hold hands during their morning walk, in selfies (self-portraits), and even in the Starbucks drive-thru.
Venti, non-fat, no foam, no water, 6 pumps, extra hot, chai tea latte, please.
There are even nuggets of truth in the media we watch. I know, by and large mediated messages have gone through the spin cycle, and we are presented with versions of truth and reality that are supposed to represent truth and reality.
Apparently they’re not the same thing.
It can be confusing if you’re not paying attention.
The same can be said about getting old and growing old.
Apparently they’re not the same thing either.
I don’t know what it is about milestone birthdays or birthdays with digits that end in zero that bring about introspection. Could it be that it’s a period in your life where a reflective pause is instinctive; it feels like a natural extension of what we should do; or is it a learned behavior because our culture is so age-sensitive?
Regardless, as I have approached my 40th birthday today, I realize that I ROCKED my 30s. I can say proudly that I:
- Renewed my relationship with God;
- Married a kind man;
- Gave birth to incredible children;
- Rekindled my love for writing; I am a writer;
- Learned to take professional risks without having to endure personal sacrifices;
- Started volunteering, and mentoring more, and
- Learned to say EXACTLY what’s on my mind without fear of judgment or repercussion.
I’m not perfect. I also:
- Failed miserably at diets, over and over and over…
- Started running, gave up and am trying again
- Would not adapt to new fashion trends (I refuse to wear ‘stripper shoes’ – platform heels, sorry, not going to do it);
- Failed at friendships, some were toxic, but I lost a good one;
- Received my first rejection letter from a publisher (actually, I’m quite proud of that);
- And at times I allowed fear to stop me from moving forward.
See? Not perfect.
Today, I wholeheartedly:
- Embrace my age – 40 is not the new 30. 40 is 40, and I’m alright with that.
- Cherish where I am in life – I started with HUMBLE beginnings. HUMBLE.
- Choose to forgive myself and those who have wronged me every day (Luke 7:47).
- Accept compliments and pats on the back because I deserve them.
- Look fear square in the face, and while I may still be afraid at times, I won’t let it stop me.
- Prefer a simple cup of tea.
Tell me, on your last milestone birthday (or even as part of your New Year’s Resolution) what truths have you learned? Are you living them?