Barely Conscious….

What would you confess?

I’m channeling my inner Iyanla.What would you confess?

Om. Om. Om.

You know Iyanla Vanzant (or at least have heard of her). She’s notorious for giving it to you straight, and as she so eloquently puts it, “calling a thing a thing.”  She’s perfected truth telling because good, bad or ugly she’s going to say what needs to be said –- even when you don’t want to hear it or agree.

So in the spirit of truth telling, I have a confession, okay-okay 3 confessions:

Confession #1: I get a headache when I listen to the radio now. No, it’s not from old age or the volume… I’m disgusted by what continues to get airplay. If it’s not the expletives or misogynistic lyrics, then it’s womanizing strip club tales or rape – plain and simple.

It saddens me that so many people buy into the hype and think that the lyrics aren’t directed towards them. Newsflash: these low self-esteem songs with all their creative beats and mass-market appeal are targeting you, and you bought into it. Consider this a wake up call to the unconscious: (1). Stop listening to it; (2) Fellas pull up your pants; and (3) For some women, realize that you’re more than your body parts.

Confession #2: I’m more conscious of where I spend my dollars now. I’ll be the first to confess that this is NOT EASY. What large chains have over smaller mom-and-pop shops are variety and sometimes convenience (there’s a major retailer every 2 or 3 miles in any direction).

With tons of information at our fingertips, it’s much easier today to determine if the companies where you spend your hard earned cash practice good ethics and corporate responsibility. For me, this means not supporting companies that are detrimental to the environment or support entertainers that degrade women or people of color or take jobs away from Americans.

Do you know what your money supports?

Confessions #3: I’ve “unliked” more pages and people on Facebook and “unfollowed” more tweeple on Twitter in the past few weeks than I’ve “liked” or “followed” in the past year. My social media feeds were depressing. Some people use Facebook as a personal diary, in one breath they praise God but in the next drop more f-bombs than the cast of Real Housewives of [pick a city]. Or better yet, chalked full of soft porn pictures.

Really? I mean, really?

What’s more, I’m not sure if these social media sites are in reality fostering genuine social interactions. Most conversations are superficial at best – “hi”…”hi”…”bye”…”bye”.

Since my recent unfollows, err I mean updates, my feeds are now motivating and full of positive energy from people that I would talk to offline.

I’m just calling a thing a thing.

Is there anything in your life that you were unconscious about? If you could call a thing a thing, what would you say? What would you confess?

10 thoughts on “Barely Conscious….

  1. Sounds like you are rejecting negativity, which is a positive step. My husband and I have also been moving this direction and it is very hard. One thing we’ve called a thing is to cut ties with toxic people. This has been especially difficult because two of them were family members. Our time with them is now greatly limited and we’ve honestly had to let go of feelings that are hard to ignore. But we’re better off for it :0)

    • Yes! Family is always hard…and it’s not that you can’t love them, just love them as much as you can. It’s so easy to keep the status quo but bring different, now that’s where it gets interesting. Thanks for reading, Cynthia.

  2. Your revelations astounded me. First, I don’t listen to songs on the radio. So I never knew about the smutty, negative words targeting mostly the young. I’m so sorry for the songs’ influence over them. Secondly, I agree that we should only buy what is ethical and correct. I refuse to buy pears from overseas when England grows perfectly good ones. And that social network thing–I’ve only come accross a few objectionable words and quickly shut them off. We don’t need bad influences in our lives.

    • Hi, I couldn’t agree more…we buy local when possible. With regards to the songs, I’m amazed at how pervasive the lyrics influence our behaviors and even worse sabotage self love.

    • Sounds just wonderful! We try to buy local as much as we can. It’s amazing: we found a farmer’s market near our home on a whim one day. The quality of the veggies are out of this world. Thanks so much for reading and stopping by.

  3. I agree with all 3 of your confessions! I rarely listen to the radio because I can’t listen to it in the vehicle with my 4 kids in tow. When I do happen to turn it on, I get embarrassed and turn it off quickly because I don’t want my 8 year old repeating the lyrics!
    We stopped shopping at Wal-Mart about 6 years ago and I have never regretted it. We try and support more small and local companies as we can, including local farmers and vendors.
    I’ve also been unliking a lot of pages. 🙂


    For me its television there are so many negative shows on air about teen moms and vampires killing ppl, or shows like snapped and cops, or Honey Boo Boo! really? we need much more positive tv. I really wanna talk about ratchet preachers but I will save that for another time 🙂

  5. Very Honest post. Gave me a lot of food for thought. Did get rid of a few negative social contacts, and will not accept some just to make the number of follower’s look more popular for my book or web site. It is very tough to say no when it would look better to say yes. I am willing to bet most people don’t do the right thing when no one is looking.

    • That’s quite admirable! I agree, I’m not sure if I’d want everyone’s “likes” …some would equate it with approval and I don’t need anyone’s but my own. If you operate out of a space that’s authentic then you’ll attract the right type of followers. Thanks so much for reading. Please stop by again.

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