The Losers


“We must all suffer from one or two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces and regret weighs tons.” – Jim Rohn

“Things aren’t falling into place as quickly as I’d like,” she said shifting in her chair.  “You understand don’t you?”predict

“Of course,” I responded dryly.

“You sound like you don’t believe me.”

I didn’t believe her.  


We’ve been having the same conversation repeatedly for the past 3 years, and it always ended the same way:

“I’m not ready.”

 “I need this before I could do that.

 “They’re making it hard for me.”

“I can’t do it right now.”

It’s so easy to blame outside stuff for inside turmoil.  (Tweet that!)

Doing nothing and then talking about why you aren’t doing it may feel productive, but it’s the equivalent of running in place and expecting to cross the finish line in a marathon.  

It’s not going to happen.

More truth?

I empathize with my friend because I’m guilty too.

I’ve got lots projects and ideas incubating but I know until I muster the courage to give birth to them, they’ll go nowhere.

…and we will have the same conversation for the NEXT 3 years.

This day, however, we decided to have an honest talk and call each other out on our respective pregnancies   ideas. 

The lesson?

To move forward in life, you can sit and talk about your dreams and goals with the illusion that you have all the time in the world or you’re going to have to lose something to get to the next level.

Losing is a powerful teacher.

To get what want, you need to lose few things: fear, guilt, shame, and doubt.  

And in doing so, you’ll make room for all the wonderfulness that is waiting to be part of your life.

Start right now.

What do you need to lose in order to gain?


8 thoughts on “The Losers

    • Yes! Weight and these emotional barriers are all related. For me it was all four, I needed to feel them to justify why I wasn’t losing weight. I don’t think you lose them entirely, rather use them as leverage to attain what you want in life. Sounds like it’ll be a great topic for conversation.

  1. I LOVE this! The quote at the beginning was wonderful! It actually inspired me to write today. Thanks for this. I love the concept of getting rid of those ugly, negative, energy stealing emotions. We always think we need to remove physical things to get what we want, but maybe we need to remove the emotional things. Fabulous post.

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