Remember the Journey

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What is it about the prospect of something new that excites us? We often start one project or venture in our lives and then soon thereafter we’re off to another, leaving the one before us unfinished.

Or is it just me? Ahem.

I had to take a hard look at myself recently. I had so many irons in the fire, I could pass for a professional blacksmith.

Just kidding.

But seriously, I was doing way too much, at the same time, for some of the wrong reasons.

And I’m not talking about vanity or prestige, nothing like that.

I’m talking about for the sake of having something creative to do. I find that when one aspect of my life is not going as well as I hope, I compensate. And it usually looks like me starting a new project.

Did I just shrink myself?

I also realized that I tend to see some projects through and not others because I’m afraid of what the end result will be.

I’m still learning that it’s okay to fail. I’m not perfect.

I know – I know, please don’t tell anyone.

I have to learn how to give up the notion that everything I do has to be perfect.

But what I know for sure is that I can start again.

You can start again, too. If it’s something that you really want to do, genuinely accomplish, celebrate what you’ve done so far and pick up where you left off. Or better still give yourself a “tabula rasa” – a clean slate—and start new today.  

And in starting new today, remember to enjoy the journey, the process of doing what you do is more important than the end result. Every brush stroke of repainting that kitchen, every step toward losing that weight, every draft of that unfinished chapter, or pulling those all nighters to get that degree, enjoy it. That’s when you are your authentic self.

17 thoughts on “Remember the Journey

  1. I am bad about this anyway, but Pinterest has taken it to a new level for me. In fact, I have plans today to hit up a few stores in preparation to redo our bathroom…which really doesn’t need to be redone, but I have decorating ADD. I guess in that respect, I take the “clean slate” thing too far…in that I see my entire house as a clean slate needing to be painted ALL THE TIME. 🙂

  2. There was a time in my life when I was a perfectionist. Thank goodness, the aging process has provided me with the wisdom that striving to reach perfection is a fool’s pursuit. These days, I’m happy if the things I do look half way nice. This new attitude keeps my blood pressure down and keeps me from biting my nails. 🙂

  3. Parul Khullar

    I think I needed to read it out loud to realize that I am doing the same thing to myself. I have way too many projects started for myself, and still planning more. Although, I really haven’t finished any. I keep telling myself that I will do that, or that I am thinking of the right way to take them to the next level, but the truth is I am really scared of what’s going to happen at the end of them. I am emotionally invested in my projects. They are personal and very close to my heart. But after reading this, I think I am finally going to take them to the next level, or drop the ones that I think are not worth the time any more.
    Quite Insight ful post. Good luck and keep writing. 🙂

    • That’s intersting…the fact that you’re emotionally invested speaks volumnes about who you are. Like you, my projects are personal and I think if I “do” something and it is not well-received then I’m most likely afraid that I will be hurt in the process so I procastinate on getting them done. I started something called, “Why Not Wednesdays” on my facebook page and its essentially to get you to do something you probably wouldn’t do. What’s the worse that could happen? You get rejected? People don’t like it? You fail. The point is, it’s an exercise to get you to at least see something through and try. Maybe you should stop by and share something on Wednesdays. Last week I entered an essay contest, something that I would NEVER have done before. Why not? 🙂

  4. I’ve been having the same feelings, lately. I was trying to finish a chapter in my novel this past Sunday and I think I reached a new level of frustration that I didn’t know was possible! This will sound THOROUGHLY corny, but I’ve been talking to my inner guide (so to speak) lately to try and get to the root of it. I’m crazy, yes, but therapy is expensive. It helps to really ask yourself the “tough” questions. Otherwise my writing demons will eat me alive. Thanks, as usual for the inspiration.

    • I completely understand. I was once told that it’s okay to ask yourself questions just as long as you don’t answer (*rim shot*) okay-okay bad joke. I have that inner voice too. What did she say? Were you able to sort it out? I have something that I’ve written that’s been sitting on my desk for months. MONTHS! I think I’m going to just put it out there. Why not?!

      • Yes! Do it! Not a bad joke, by the way, I laughed. My “guide” basically told I’m not doing what I’m supposed to be doing. And that I need to figure out how to do it. Vague, but helpful.

  5. Becoming a mother taught me a lot about how over-rated perfectionism really is! That being said, I do sometimes get so frustrated and disappointed with myself, that I fail to remember precisely the message you’re trying to impart. Certainly now, I am more likely to try to “enjoy the journey” rather than merely focus on the “destination”, but I need constant reminders … and yours was a wonderful one – thank you 🙂

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