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Do you speak truth to yourself and others? Now, before you say yes (because we all tend to go with the affirmative without hesitation) really think about what I’m asking. Do. You. Speak. Truth? Or like the old folks would say where I grew up, do you have a “troot mout” – a truth mouth.
To have a “troot mout” is one of the highest compliments a person could receive. It means that unequivocally when you speak, everyone will hear the most accurate representation of truth telling. It also means that you do not deny yourself of what is actually happening around you — and to you– good, bad or indifferent.
This expression came to mind recently because of my own doing. I could hear the words of my grandmother spoken in my head,“Tell da troot to everyone but ‘specially yur-self, ef nawt y’ fa hut yur own feelins” – Tell the truth to everyone but especially yourself, if not you only hurt your own feelings.
Ever wanted something so badly but there’s an honest gnawing in your gut telling you that it just won’t happen? I think sometimes we find ourselves fighting our intuition in hopes that our optimism would outweigh disappointment. Sadly, when it comes to certain situations in life, the ‘troot mout’ in us just won’t win. And in the end, we’ve not only lied to ourselves, by setting unrealistic expectations, but are left holding a big hot steaming bag of (cough) disappointment.
So, to get to the lesson behind a “troot mout” here’s what we should consider:
Truth #1 – Say exactly what you feel. Get rid of pent up frustration or anger or resentment.
Truth #2 – Be open to feedback. Sometimes people are trying to tell you things that may not be pleasant but if you trust the source, then consider the message.
Truth #3 – Be judicious with flattery. Everyone is not deserving of your praise or your time.
Truth #4 - Set boundaries. Engage on a level that‘s comfortable to you, establishing boundaries is perfectly acceptable.
There are other ‘troot mout’ lessons to be shared, I’m sure. What would you add to this list?